The Important Conversations Are Often The Hardest.

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This week we dive into a topic many of us wrestle with, the conversations we keep putting off.

The ones that feel too awkward, too risky or too emotional to touch.

We discuss why those conversations matter so much, what avoidance really costs us, and how to start speaking up with more courage and care.

We also meet a man who turned a teenage dream of jungles into a lifelong commitment to protect one of the most important forests on Earth.

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I hope something resonates with you this week and provides the spark you’ve needed to take the next step forward.

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We’ve all experienced those conversations that linger in the back of our mind.

The ones we keep pushing down.

Telling ourselves it’s not the right time.

That it might hurt someone.

Or maybe?

It’ll resolve itself.

If we wait long enough.

But it rarely does.

Avoiding hard conversations tends to do the opposite of what we intend.

It spreads out the discomfort you feel across time.

And even worse?

What gets lost in the process is trust, connection and that sense of self‑respect that comes from showing up honestly.

The truth is, our most confronting conversations are often the ones that create the biggest breakthroughs.

They hold the potential to repair trust, deepen love and reveal what’s been costing us peace behind the scenes.

So while they never feel like it at the time.

They matter more than almost anything else you say.

Think about a conversation you’ve been avoiding lately.

Maybe it’s telling your partner how unseen you’ve been feeling.

Maybe it’s a talk with your manager about boundaries and burnout.

Maybe it’s admitting to a friend that something’s been hurting you.

We resist because we care.

Because there’s so much at stake.

Because we fear what might change if the truth comes out.

But that same risk is the reason these conversations are necessary.

They sit at the crossroads of what we value most: love, belonging, respect.

And what we’re most afraid to lose.

Every avoided topic becomes a pause button on your own growth.

The walls we build to avoid discomfort become the same walls that block intimacy, self‑trust and progress.

Telling ourselves we’re keeping the peace can feel noble.

But it isn’t peace.

It’s suppression.

Each time we silence a truth, the distance grows.

Resentment begins to drip, slowly and invisibly at first.

Like acid on connection.

People start walking on eggshells around what’s unspoken.

Workplaces lose trust.

Families lose warmth.

And within you, something else happens.

You begin to doubt your own voice.

You wonder if honesty is safe.

You live in half‑truths.

Hoping they’ll protect you while knowing they never really do.

The discomfort of speaking the truth lasts minutes or hours.

The discomfort of withholding it can last years.

It can feel almost primal.

Your heart races, your chest tightens.

That’s our nervous system stepping in, trying to keep us safe.

Growing up, many of us associated conflict with emotional risk.

As a result, when faced with a challenging conversation, your instincts caution you to avoid it, fearing a negative outcome.

This fear is valid.

It’s trying to protect you.

But while your fear is real, your prediction?

Usually isn’t.

Research consistently shows that difficult conversations often go better than we expect.

They’re rarely as awkward or explosive as our mind imagines.

When you approach them with sincerity and care?

Most people respond with more openness than you anticipate.

Your body remembers fear.

Your present‑day relationships are often far more ready for honesty than your nervous system believes.

Today, as I write this, my wife and I are celebrating our 16th wedding anniversary.

Over the years, I’ve often reflected on what has allowed our relationship to stay strong and deeply connected through so many different seasons of life.

It isn’t the absence of conflict or difference.

We’ve had both.

The thing that’s made the biggest difference?

Our shared commitment to honesty.

From the very beginning, we agreed we wouldn’t shy away from the hard conversations.

The interesting thing is, when you talk as you go?

They rarely grow into “hard conversations.”

We address the small frustrations.

The big emotions.

The moments of misunderstanding.

As they show up.

Rather than letting them accumulate.

It’s never perfectly timed or perfectly worded.

But it’s real.

That ongoing openness has become our way of staying light.

Never dragging unspoken tension behind us.

Never letting silence do the talking for us.

Because you’ll fill that silence with your own thoughts and assumptions.

It’s incredibly freeing to live without emotional backlog.

To know you can say what’s on your mind and trust that the relationship can hold it.

For me, that’s what safety in connection feels like.

Never avoiding friction, but moving through it together.

One honest conversation at a time.

Having the hard conversations is becoming the kind of person you want to be.

Every time you lean into a little discomfort?

You rewire your relationship with vulnerability.

You prove to yourself that you can be kind and direct.

Loving and honest.

In the end, these conversations give back far more than they take.

They deepen trust.

Because truth is the soil that connection grows in.

They strengthen relationships by clearing away silent assumptions.

They expand your self confidence by showing that you can face tension without abandoning yourself.

In leadership, the willingness to have difficult conversations is a marker of maturity.

The courage to speak truth with empathy is what turns authority into influence and colleagues into teams.

In life, it’s often the glue that allows relationships to stay real.

Instead of just looking good from the outside.

At home or at work, honesty builds love and respect to heights that surface‑level harmony could never sustain.

You don’t need a perfect script.

You don’t even need to feel fully ready.

What you need is clear intention.

To express truth with care and to create space for real connection.

Before you begin, take a moment to ground yourself.

Feel your feet on the floor.

Take a slow breath.

Remind yourself of why this matters.

Then move gently into it.

Let the other person know why you’re bringing this up.

Share what you’ve noticed and how you feel.

Rather than what they’re doing “wrong.”

Stay curious about their perspective.

Even when you feel strongly about your own.

The conversation might be messy.

There might be tears, pauses and awkward moments.

That doesn’t mean it’s going badly.

It just means it’s real.

You don’t need to chase a perfect resolution.

Ending with clarity is enough.

Clarity, even when it stings a little, is one of the kindest gifts you can offer yourself and the people in your life.

With intent and follow through, you can build more honesty into your life one conversation at a time.

I love how conflict‑resolution expert Adar Cohen puts it in his TEDx talk How to Lead Tough Conversations.

“Very often we’re just one honest conversation away from a breakthrough.”

His approach is simple.

Move toward the conflict instead of away from it.

Stay genuinely curious and give the conversation enough space to breathe.

Start by noticing what you’ve been avoiding.

It might be something as simple as telling a friend a joke went too far, or as big as sharing how you really feel in a relationship or at work.

Awareness is the first act of courage.

From there, a few simple practices can help:

Make space for dialogue rather than confrontation: Set the tone for understanding instead of winning. You’re not stepping into a courtroom, you’re stepping into a shared space of truth.

Go first: When you’re willing to share openly. Your feelings, your experience, your hopes for the relationship. You give the other person permission to be open too. Vulnerability is surprisingly contagious.

Hold the outcome lightly: You can’t control how someone responds. You can only control how you show up. Let your measure of success be your honesty and your care, not their reaction in the moment.

Celebrate your courage: After the conversation, take a moment to acknowledge what you did. You chose truth over comfort. That matters. Even if it felt shaky, you honoured yourself and the relationship enough to be real.

With each honest conversation?

You teach your nervous system a new story.

Truth isn’t a threat.

It’s a pathway to mental freedom.

The conversations you need to have are your way forward.

Not some obstacle standing in your way.

They’re the doorway to deeper connection.

To greater integrity.

To the kind of self‑respect that only honesty can offer.

Each time you resist the urge to change the subject?

And choose to step forward with a steady heart?

You reinforce your belief that you can handle what is real.

You show yourself that you’re someone who doesn’t abandon your truth for the sake of perceived comfort.

Real peace of mind comes from knowing you can pass through moments of friction with grace.

So the next time your chest tightens or your voice wobbles as you think about saying what you really mean?

Pause. Breathe.

Remember what waits on the other side of honesty.

Lighter shoulders, stronger relationships and a deeper trust in yourself.

Your most important conversations are often the hardest.

Have them anyway.

Your future self will thank you for your courage.

If you want to hear from someone with a PhD in having difficult conversations, check out this 15 minute video:

The first sound was a chainsaw.

Not a birdcall or a rustle of leaves.

But a hard mechanical roar cutting through the stillness of the Amazon.

On a narrow trail beside Peru’s Las Piedras River, Paul Rosolie watched fresh tire tracks slice through the mud.

Proof that illegal loggers were moving deeper into one of the last intact stretches of rainforest on Earth.

In front of him stood trees that had taken centuries to grow.

Behind him, a rough road pushed forward month by month.

In that one moment?

His work became less of an adventure and started feeling like responsibility.

Paul grew up in New York.

Surrounded by concrete, noise and crowded sidewalks.

Even then, his attention leaned toward the wild.

He was drawn to stories of jungles, animals and remote rivers.

At eighteen, he finally went.

He travelled to the Peruvian Amazon and arrived in Madre de Dios, a region dense with forest and rich in wildlife.

Along the Las Piedras River, he found what he had imagined for years.

Towering trees, macaws filling the sky and tapir tracks pressed into the riverbank.

That first trip changed him.

The forest became a place he began to understand by its sounds and smells.

A place he felt personally responsible for.

After spending more time on the river, he noticed a clear pattern.

He saw jaguar tracks, healthy forest and Indigenous communities closely tied to the land.

At the same time he saw chainsaws, fresh clearings and trees being ripped down for fast money.

One day while on a patrol with his friend (and local guide), Juan Julio “JJ” Durand, they watched an old tree come crashing down under a chainsaw.

They both understood that tree wouldn’t return in their lifetimes.

Walking back to camp, their focus shifted.

From waiting for someone else to act.

To accepting their role.

They began to see themselves as keepers of this stretch of the jungle.

Guardians, rather than visitors.

Following that decision?

Junglekeepers began to take shape.

The aim was simple and clear.

Protect key areas of rainforest along the Las Piedras by securing land, training rangers and working with local communities.

Over time, this effort has helped defend tens of thousands of acres of forest.

And the wildlife that depends on it.

From the outside looking in, Paul’s work looks heroic.

Up close though, it’s emotionally demanding.

Rangers patrolling long distances by foot and by boat.

Discovering abandoned logging camps, burned patches of forest and signs of poaching.

Interestingly, some of these rangers used to be loggers.

Bringing a deep knowledge of the forest which they now use to protect it.

That shift highlights the power of education to initiate meaningful change when individuals are presented with genuine, respectful alternatives.

There’s also the emotional cost.

You can care deeply for a forest and still be forced to walk through its damaged areas.

You can work for years and still see new clearings appear.

On those days?

Optimism becomes a deliberate practice rather than a feeling.

You just keep protecting what you can, where you can, with the tools you have.

Most of us will never stand under those trees or travel that river.

In recent years, Paul has written about his early expeditions.

Including nights alone in the canopy and countless close encounters with wildlife.

He also shares these experiences and important information through interviews and podcasts.

Explaining how the Amazon stores enormous amounts of carbon, recycles moisture that feeds rain across our continents, and crucially, helps stabilise our global climate.

There have been bold media projects in his past that sparked debate about the approaches taken and the impact they can have.

Those moments led to reflection about what actually serves conservation in the long run.

In recent years, his focus has centred on practical protection.

Paid rangers, community partnerships, secured land and honest communication about both their progress and setbacks.

Even if you never visit the Amazon (which I hope you do), Paul’s path carries lessons for everyday life:

Start with one area of care: You don’t need to fix everything. Choose one cause, relationship or project and commit to it.

Turn care into structure: Feelings matter, and they become more powerful when supported by plans, routines and partnerships.

Invite change from unlikely places: Former loggers working as rangers show how people can shift direction when given a real option, an education and of course, respect.

Treat optimism as a practice: Pair hope with action. A message sent, a habit changed, a small donation or a volunteer shift. Small moves reinforce the belief that progress is possible.

What stays with me about Paul is his decision to establish himself in one place and just keep returning.

He circles back to the same river.

The same trees.

The same communities.

Year after year.

While the modern world often rewards novelty?

His story highlights the strength of staying with something that matters.

Your personal version of his Amazon may look very different.

It might be a child you care for, a team you lead, a creative project or a community that needs some support.

So, I guess the question is?

Where in your life are you ready to stop just passing through and choose to stand guard?

Because somewhere, right now, there is a forest that will only survive if someone like you decides to fight for it.

I first discovered Paul while watching the video below. It offers a great introduction to both him and the cause he has chosen to dedicate his life to:

I’ve read many books about purpose and meaning over the years.

Most of them offer some insightful perspective and practical advice.

But few stand out as having a real impact on how I view things.

What Matters Most felt different.

Because it listens to people who are running out of tomorrows and then takes their words seriously.

Diane Button has spent years as an end‑of‑life doula.

She sits with people in their final days and pays attention to what rises to the surface when there’s no time left to hide behind busyness or roles.

The result?

A book that’s both honest and gentle.

It’s also encouraging, as it nudges you to rethink your priorities while there’s still space to adjust them.

On the face of it, this is a book about dying.

Quickly it becomes clear that it’s really a book about how we live.

Button shares short, real stories from the people she calls her wisdom keepers and shows the patterns that appear again and again at the end of life.

More time for love.

More presence.

More joy in ordinary days.

More courage to say the things that needed to be said.

The chapters are brief and an easy read.

Each one offering a story and reflections that come across as an invitation rather than a list of finite instructions.

Instead of telling you how you should live?

The book asks a simple question in different ways.

If this is what matters most in the end, what does that mean for today?

It’s a book you can read in short bursts and still feel its impact.

What stands out most is how personal the stories are.

Button writes about real people with everyday details.

Families, pets, favourite routines, unfinished conversations.

The lessons tend to be grounded in small, concrete moments.

Like using the good dishes now or saying I love you more often.

Reaching out to someone you miss and allowing yourself to enjoy simple things instead of always saving them for later.

Her experience at the bedside gives the book a steady tone.

She’s not pontificating about what matters when time is short.

She has watched real people wrestle with that question for years.

That comes through in the way she writes with honesty and kindness.

This subject should feel really heavy.

But actually feels quite light.

As though you’re part of a series of real conversations about what makes a life feel complete.

For a book focused on life's final stages, it offers solid guidance for everyday living:

Relationships sit at the centre: People speak about love, connection, apologies and gratitude far more than achievements or possessions. It’s a clear reminder to put time and attention where it’ll matter most later.

Joy belongs in normal days: Many of the stories touch on people wishing they’d allowed themselves more small joys. Lighting candles, sharing meals, saying yes to experiences without waiting for a special occasion. It encourages you to bring more of that into the days you’re living right now.

Letting go can bring peace: I found the most moving moments involved forgiveness, whether toward others or themselves. Even late in life, releasing old hurts can change the quality of the time that remains. That raises a question about what you yourself might be ready to release.

Thinking about the end can clarify the present: Button includes reflection prompts drawn from her years of work. Asking what would you want people to remember? What do you still want to say? How do you want to use the time you have? Thinking about those questions doesn’t feel morbid but more like a reset on what matters most.

Reading What Matters Most was a series of subtle wake‑up calls.

Delivered with a lot of care.

It reminded me that while none of us can control how much time we get?

We have real influence over how we spend today.

Who we reach out to, how we show up, what we make space for and what we stop postponing.

For someone who believes in grounded optimism and the power of small, intentional shifts?

This book is a meaningful companion.

Rather than denying that the end of life can be hard?

It keeps turning your attention back to the present and asking simple questions like:

If this is what people say matters when time is short, what’s one small change you’re willing to make now?

If you are looking for a thoughtful, human book that lingers in both your mind and heart.

What Matters Most is well worth a read.

Please share; I'm always keen for great suggestions.

Some days it feels like life has you backed into a corner.

The decision is already made, the script is already written and you’re just along for the ride.

But more often than not, what looks like a dead end is actually a moment loaded with possibilities you haven’t noticed yet.

I love playing with this idea.

Because it turns ordinary moments into turning points.

The way you answer a difficult email.

How you speak to yourself after a mistake.

Whether you reach for your phone or take a breath.

These small, almost invisible choices shape the direction of your life.

We often have more moves on the board than we think.

The unglamorous truth is that we spend much of our lives on autopilot, reacting to the world like a line of falling dominoes.

We assume our options are limited to how we have always handled things.

Getting defensive when criticised.

Scrolling when bored.

Worrying when uncertain.

The key is understanding that autopilot is a habit, not a law of physics.

At any given second, there’s a narrow window between what happens and how you respond.

That window is where your life actually happens.

In that sliver of space, you can take a breath, ask a better question, soften your tone, choose rest, or reach for support.

It rarely looks dramatic from the outside, but inside, those little shifts are where your power lives.

When we feel overwhelmed?

Our focus narrows.

We lock onto the problem, the worry, or the thing we wish we could control.

In that tunnel vision?

Options disappear (not because they’re gone) but because we can’t see them.

When we loosen our grip on how things “have to” be?

We create room for new ideas and new outcomes to appear.

Here are a few simple ways to play with that window of possibility in everyday life:

The five‑second pause: When someone says something that spikes your heart rate? Silently count to five before you respond. It’s a tiny gap, but it’s often the difference between reacting on autopilot and choosing how you actually want to show up.

The other‑room reset: When you notice your thoughts spiralling, physically move to a different room or go for a quick walk. The change in environment can interrupt the pattern and remind you that you’re allowed to shift your state.

Micro‑experiments in boredom: Next time you are in a checkout line, keep your phone in your pocket. Spend those two minutes noticing small details. The colour of the floor, the sound of the register, the people around you. It’s a great way to prove to yourself you can choose presence over distraction.

Honouring this idea doesn’t require you to overhaul your entire life

Just to teach yourself to notice the small doors that are already there and be willing to walk through one of them.

Life gets messy.

It’ll kick you hard, and often do it without warning.

Being mindful is realising that even when things are falling apart?

You still have the power to decide how you are going to stand in the ruins.

You aren’t stuck.

You’re simply waiting for yourself to make a move.

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