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Thanks for being here, I hope the weekend treated you well.

This week, we’re digging into how watching people who are brilliant at what they do pulls at something within us. We cover what’s happening in our brains during those moments, and the trap that can hide within every burst of inspiration.

I also want to introduce you to Jo Nagai, a young boy from Japan, who’s co-authored a scientific paper with an adult professor about butterfly memory. This one is an extraordinary story.

Plus, there’s a music recommendation that’s taken over our house lately, and a small reminder about the power of simply stopping.

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There's a feeling I get that I've never been able to fully explain.

It happens at a concert, when a musician does something that makes the audience go silent, just for a second, before they all cheer loudly.

It happens on a sports field when someone does something that seems physically impossible.

At a museum when you stand in front of a painting that captures an emotion you've never been able to put into words.

It's a moment of awe.

A shared experience that transcends the ordinary and connects everyone in that space, for that brief moment.

You know the feeling.

That pull you can't quite name when you're watching someone do the thing they were built to do.

I've chased that feeling my whole life.

Growing up in Australia, I played sport obsessively and watched it just as much, always drawn to the players who showed up differently in big moments.

Never the loudest ones, often the calmest ones.

The ones who seemed to slow everything down when everything else was speeding up.

These days I find that same pull everywhere.

In a barista who moves with confidence at 7 a.m. on a Tuesday.

In a live performer who loves what they do so much that it comes off the stage and sits right next to you.

In an astronaut describing their time in space.

Listening to an expert on a topic I know nothing about, who adds ten new layers to how I see the world.

All of it the same feeling.

All of it worth every minute.

But the earliest version of this, the one that set the template for everything that came after, didn't happen at a concert or a stadium.

It happened while watching my Dad at work.

He was flying planes before he was driving cars.

Over twelve years in the air (that’s right, in the air!), across a lifetime that was sadly cut far too short.

What always got me wasn't just the time he spent up there. 

It was everything that surrounded it.

The work ethic.

The attention to the smallest details.

The way he cared for his equipment as though it was a living thing.

The focused preparation on the ground long before the wheels left the runway.

And, more than any of it, the joy.

Whenever he was doing what he loved most, it was palpable.

He lit up.

There is no other way to describe it.

I lost him far too soon, and I carry that with me every day.

But I've never lost the way he made me feel watching him.

Or the lessons (both subtle and not so subtle) that I absorbed without even realising it.

Looking back, he was the first person who showed me what mastery looks like from the inside.

Something so much deeper than just skill.

There's a line that separates someone who's good at something and someone who's truly mastered it.

You can feel that line even when you can't define it.

It lives in the details.

The way a master makes something complicated look effortless.

The way tension disappears from their movements.

The way they seem to have time that nobody else has.

Psychology has a name for what you're watching in those moments: flow.

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi spent decades studying peak performance.

He described it as a state where challenge and skill meet so precisely that self-consciousness dissolves and full presence takes over.

Time warps.

Effort disappears.

The person and the thing they are doing become, temporarily, the same thing.

When we watch mastery?

We're watching someone in flow.

That is why it pulls at us the way it does.

Because we're not just watching technique, we are watching what a human being looks like when they are fully alive.

And something in us recognises it.

Something says: that's possible. 

Here's something that changes the way I think about all of this.

Watching excellence isn't passive.

Research into observational learning, built on Albert Bandura's social learning theory, found that we don't only learn from doing things ourselves.

We learn by watching others.

And it goes deeper than most realise.

When you observe skilled movement? 

Your brain activates many of the same regions as when you perform that movement yourself

It's like you yourself are rehearsing greatness.

Your brain is building a template.

A picture of what excellent looks like, feels like, moves like.

This matters because we can only aim at things we can see clearly.

The more vividly we understand what "great" looks like in practice, the better our internal compass for moving toward it.

Every time you sit in front of someone who is magnificent at what they do, you're expanding your definition of what's possible.

There is one honest twist worth acknowledging.

Research on observational learning also reveals something less comfortable.

Watching experts can increase your confidence without actually increasing your ability.

People consistently feel more capable after watching a master perform, even when their actual performance hasn't improved at all. 

The emotional rush of inspiration.

That feeling of "I could do that."

It can trick you into believing the gap has closed when it hasn't moved an inch.

I've done this more than once.

Arrived home from a show ready to pick up the guitar expecting it to click.

Sound familiar?

There’s nothing wrong with admiration for its own sake.

It’s one of life’s genuine pleasures.

But if you want your observation to mean something more?

The moment right after inspiration hits is where everything either happens or slowly evaporates.

Watching brilliance can move you in two directions.

Outward, into doing.

Or inward, into comfortable admiration.

The question you need to answer is which direction do you want to go?

The shift from spectator to something more is simpler than it sounds.

It starts with being specific about what you're watching when someone stops you in your tracks.

Next time it happens, try asking: what is making this so good?

Sometimes the answer is simply presence.

They’re nowhere else but here.

Sometimes it’s preparation.

You can feel decades of work underneath a moment that looks effortless.

And sometimes, the answer is simply care.

The athlete who plays the same way whether the score is level or the game is gone.

The chef who treats every plate as though someone important is watching.

The pilot who runs through every pre-flight check with the same rigour on his thousandth flight as his first.

My Dad was like that.

The care never dropped.

Regardless of how experienced he became.

If anything, his experience deepened it.

That is something I’ve tried to carry with me.

Once you name the quality you're watching?

A second question opens up.

Where in my own life do I want more of that?

Not where do I want to match their result, but where do I want more of the quality that produced it.

That distinction matters.

Because most of us aren’t chasing mastery.

We’re not trying to play for the national team or Michelin-star our kitchen.

We’re trying to do our work well, lead our families thoughtfully and show up fully in the places we’re present.

What moves me most when watching someone extraordinary is considering everything that isn't visible.

The show is an hour long, but they've been perfecting their skills for countless years.

The early mornings.

The setbacks.

The sessions that went nowhere.

The moments they nearly walked away.

None of that shows up in what you see.

What you see is the compound interest on an enormous investment of time and patience.

That’s what mastery actually is.

Not talent.

It’s devotion.

It’s a more democratic idea than talent.

Because most of us have access to devotion, even if we don't have access to natural gifts.

Talent is distributed unevenly.

Devotion is not.

We may not reach the level of the performers and players and artists who stop our breath.

But the principle that sits underneath their achievement, is available to anyone.

Choose something worth caring about.

Then stay with it long enough to surprise yourself.

That alone will change the quality of your days.

Whether anyone else ever notices or not.

Name what moved you: The next time someone extraordinary stops you in your tracks, get specific about why. Naming the quality turns a vague feeling into something you can take with you. 

Translate admiration into action: Inspiration has a short shelf life. Within twenty‑four hours of watching something that moved you, do one small thing that points in the same direction. A page written, a scale practised, a conversation started. It keeps the momentum honest.

Stay with the discomfort of being a beginner: If you're avoiding something because you're not good at it (yet), that's likely the thing you should keep trying. The people you admire sat in that discomfort far longer than others were willing to.

Seek out mastery deliberately: Make time to watch, read and listen to people who are extraordinary at what they do. Across fields you know nothing about. Use it as fuel. Every exposure sharpens your picture of what great actually looks like.

I love watching people who are incredible at what they do, do what they’re incredible at.

I still pause when I see someone doing something with a level of skill (and care) that comes from years of dedication.

I hope I always do.

That pull is one of the most reliable signals we have.

A reminder that full engagement is possible.

And that the unseen, unglamorous work of getting better at something is one of the most human things a person can do.

The question I keep returning to isn't how to become the best in the world at anything.

It is simpler than that.

Where am I giving the kind of attention and care that produces something I’m genuinely proud of?

Where am I settling for comfortable when I could be choosing devoted?

Watching mastery is often free.

And it’s everywhere around us.

Next time you see it?

Slow down and take it all in.

You never know who may provide your next inspiration.

If you want to learn more you can discover the science of awe through real stories of human excellence in this TEDx talk by UC Berkeley researcher Dacher Keltner:

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In the spring of 2022, Dr. Martha Weiss, an insect expert from Georgetown University, walked into her office mailroom and discovered an unexpected handwritten letter.

It was in English.

It was articulate.

It was from a seven-year-old boy in Kobe, Japan.

The boys name was Jo Nagai.

He'd found her research online and taught himself what she was studying.

Then he chose to write to her to ask (both politely & seriously) whether she'd like to collaborate.

Jo was in second grade.

Jo had been raising swallowtail butterflies since he was quite young.

Think less like a kids hobby and closer to real devotion.

The slow unfurling of wings.

The way they navigate colour and light.

The strange, impossible fact of what they really are.

A creature that dissolves itself completely and reassembles into something new.

At some point, a question took hold of him.

What happens to their memory?

When a caterpillar enters its chrysalis, it liquefies.

Nearly everything it was breaks down into biological soup before being rebuilt.

Cell by cell, into a butterfly.

Nothing should survive that.

Certainly not something as fragile as a memory.

Jo wasn't so sure.

He'd been reading research papers (in English, his second language) and came across a study by Dr. Weiss showing that moths could retain things they'd learned as caterpillars.

Even after metamorphosis.

He looked at his swallowtails.

And chose to write her a letter.

Dr. Weiss chose to write back.

Of course she did.

What else do you do when a child writes you a letter about metamorphosis and memory retention?

What followed was one of the more wonderful pen-pal friendships in recent scientific history.

Jo would write from Kobe.

Weiss would write from Washington.

They traded questions, experimental designs, results.

She'd suggest an approach.

He'd push back with his own thinking.

She'd revise.

He'd try it at home.

By Weiss's own account, the scientific exchange was legitimate.

Jo was doing real work.

Working from his kitchen bench (no lab, no university equipment, just the butterflies he raised himself) Jo trained caterpillars to associate lavender oil with an unpleasant experience.

Classical conditioning.

Then he waited while they entered their chrysalises and emerged as butterflies.

When he reintroduced lavender oil?

The butterflies avoided it.

A memory formed in a body that no longer existed that had survived complete biological dissolution.

This alone would’ve been extraordinary.

But Jo kept going.

He tested the offspring.

The second generation.

The butterflies whose parents had been conditioned, but who’d never experienced lavender themselves.

They avoided it too.

The learned aversion had been passed forward.

It’s wild to think that these statistically significant results were produced by a 10 year old child working from home in Kobe.

Dr. Akito Kawahara, one of the world's leading lepidopterists (the study of butterflies and moths), called Jo's work university-level.

Jo and Dr. Weiss eventually met in person in Japan.

By then they'd been writing for years.

The meeting felt less like a scientist greeting a young admirer and more like two colleagues finally connecting across a table.

They're now co-authoring a paper for the Journal of the Lepidopterists' Society.

I think about my daughter when I read a stories like this.

She adores animals.

And she has a fiercely curious mind.

She asks questions I don't always know how to answer, and she asks them like she actually expects me to try.

I don't always get it right.

But when I do slow down, give her the attention she deserves, she astounds me.

Every single time.

There's a depth to what children notice that too many adults stop noticing somewhere along the way.

A story like Jo’s, makes me wonder how many kids are sitting at kitchen tables around the world.

Asking questions the adults around them are too busy to hear.

A butterfly isn't consciously teaching its children anything.

There's no lesson, no conversation, no intention.

And yet something transfers.

An experience encoded in one body survives its complete dissolution, re-emerges in an entirely different creature, and moves again into the next generation.

This is the territory of epigenetics.

The study of how experience shapes gene expression, and how those expressions can be inherited.

Research in humans has found that trauma can alter gene expression in ways that carry forward to children and grandchildren.

People who never lived the original event can carry its biological echo.

Jo's butterflies weren’t aware they’re remembering.

They were just living.

And somewhere in that living, something travelled forward.

What are you carrying right now that didn't begin with you?

What has been handed down through your family?

Something running beneath the surface.

Something thats shaping how you respond to the world before you've even had a chance to think about it.

Don't wait for credentials to follow curiosity:Jo had a question and the willingness to chase it. Most of us talk ourselves out of pursuing things long before anyone else does. The barrier is rarely qualification. It's pure hesitation.

Write the letter: Jo reached out to a world-class researcher he'd never met, from the other side of the planet, in his second language, at seven years old. The worst that could happen was silence. The best was a years-long collaboration and a published paper. Most of the opportunities we miss aren't the ones we’re denied. They're the ones we never asked for.

Take children's questions seriously: Dr. Weiss engaged with his thinking as though it mattered, because it did. The way we respond to a child's curiosity shapes whether that curiosity survives into adulthood.

Jo Nagai is ten years old and co-authoring a scientific paper with a Georgetown professor.

That's the headline.

But the part of this story I keep coming back to is much more subtle than that.

A seven-year-old took a question seriously.

He didn't wait for a lab or a degree or someone to tell him he was old enough.

He wrote a letter to a stranger on the other side of the world and saying, I think I can help.

And she wrote back.

Jo's butterflies didn't know a memory shouldn't survive metamorphosis.

They remembered anyway.

His caterpillars had no clue they were passing something forward to the next generation.

They did it anyway.

Which makes us question - what can we pass on?

If you’d like to learn more about Jo’s incredible story, check out this 14 minute video:

There's a kind of music that doesn't ask anything of you.

No context required.

You just press play and something inside you unclenches a little.

I found Bar Mediterraneo one afternoon while looking for something to put on in the background but ended up sitting down and actually listening to it right through.

A few days later I recommended it my wife.

Then she was also hooked.

Nu Genea are a Neapolitan duo (Massimo Di Lena and Lucio Aquilina) based in Berlin, which already tells you something about how they see the world.

Naples as a starting point.

Europe as a meeting place.

The Mediterranean as a philosophy.

This is their second album, following Nuova Napoli, and it might be one of the most transportive records I've heard in years.

The concept behind Bar Mediterraneo is simple and quite beautiful.

An imaginary bar on the Mediterranean.

Strangers arrive as travellers.

They leave as participants.

You can hear it in the music.

Jazz-funk, disco, electronic, North African folk, Neapolitan street song.

All of it layered together with acoustic instruments, synthesisers and voices singing in languages I couldn't place.

And that's entirely the point.

The sea doesn't care where you're from.

It's warm without being soft.

Groovy without being empty.

There's real musicianship underneath all of it, which means the longer you listen?

The more you notice.

And I love that about great music.

A few tracks deserve a specific mention.

Marechià features the Cameroonian singer Célia Kameni.

Her voice fits so naturally that it sounds like she's been part of this project for years.

Vesuvio builds slowly from somewhat meditative into something irresistible.

Praja Magia makes you want to be somewhere warm and slightly unfamiliar.

And then there's La Crisi.

The duo took a Neapolitan poem from 1930 (written during a period of genuine economic despair) and turned it into a jazz-funk groove so effortlessly joyful that the contrast is almost funny.

Almost.

There's something brilliant about choosing to set a song about crisis to music that makes you want to move.

That tension?

Between the weight of where things come from and the lightness of how they're expressed.

Runs through the whole album.

Music like this is a good reminder of a few things that can be easy to forget:

Joy doesn't require explanation: The album doesn't try to justify itself or explain its references. It just invites you in. There's a lesson there that stretches well beyond music.

The best gatherings are the mixed ones: The album draws from dozens of traditions without trying to define or rank any of them. The result is richer than any single tradition could produce on its own.

Mood is a choice: I've put this record on during a difficult afternoon more than once. It doesn't solve anything. But it shifts something. That's worth more than we give it credit for.

I've recommended a lot of music in this newsletter, and I'm always conscious of the fact that taste is personal.

But Bar Mediterraneo is the type of album I'd recommend to almost anyone.

It's not asking you to be a jazz fan or a world music devotee or someone who tracks down obscure Neapolitan poetry from the 1930s.

It's just asking you to show up and enjoy the music.

And when you do, it hands you a drink and finds you a seat.

That's enough.

Please share; I'm always keen for great suggestions.

When our phone freezes, we restart it.

When the Wi-Fi drops, we pull the plug, count to ten, and plug it back in.

When the laptop starts whirring like it's about to take off, we shut it down and let it cool.

We do this without thinking.

We trust that a short break is usually all it takes to get things working again.

And despite this, when we're the ones overheating?

Foggy, snappy, running with too many tabs open in our head?

We push harder.

Another coffee.

One more task.

We'll rest when the list is done.

Sadly, we often extend more grace to our devices ,than we do for ourselves.

There's real science behind why pausing works.

Neuroscientists have been studying a concept known as the default mode network.

These are the parts of the brain that come alive when we stop focusing and let our mind wander.

Despite what you may think, this is when creativity, problem-solving and memory consolidation happen.

The brain doesn't rest when we stop working.

It takes time to reorganise.

Researchers at the University of Illinois found that brief mental breaks dramatically improve focus on long tasks, while continuous attention actually degrades performance.

In Japan, studies on shinrin-yoku (or forest bathing) show measurable drops in cortisol after just twenty minutes away from screens and noise.

None of this is new wisdom.

It's just wisdom we keep pushing aside.

The body will always send signals long before the breakdown.

Tight shoulders.

Shortened patience.

A second reading of the same paragraph because nothing went in the first time.

Don’t mistake these as signs you need to try harder.

They're the equivalent of an endless spinning wheel on your laptop screen.

The system is asking for a minute.

We rarely choose to give it one.

Treat the pause like a tool, not a reward: You don't have to earn the right to stop. A short walk, five minutes at the window, a cup of tea with nothing else happening. Don’t mistake them for indulgences. They're maintenance.

Unplug the way you'd restart a device: Fully. Not half-scrolling while half-resting. Put the phone in another room. Step outside. The greatest benefits come from the disconnection.

Notice your early warning signs: Everyone has them. For some it's a clenched jaw. For others, it's reading the same sentence twice. Catch the signal early and the reset takes minutes. Ignore it and the reset takes days.

I used to think stopping meant falling behind.

That if I paused, everyone else would sprint past me.

So I kept going, kept pushing, kept telling myself I'd rest properly later.

What I've learned is that the people who seem to have the most clarity and the most presence?

They're not the ones who never stop.

They're the ones who know when to.

A few minutes unplugged doesn't erase your to do list.

It doesn't solve the hard conversation or finish the project.

But it gives you back the version of yourself that can handle them well.

So if you're feeling stretched, try the simplest thing first.

Step away.

Let your mind go quiet.

Give yourself the same courtesy you'd give a frozen laptop.

Because almost everything works better after a short break.

Including you.

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